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It’s what DjTj Says and that’s final! These are my thoughts and feelings. Writing is therapeutic and sometimes the only way to get something out. I don’t mind sharing these thoughts with the world, but I must warn you… sometimes the truth can hurt. So if you’re a bit on the sensitive side you might wanna look at the topic first and decide if you wanna read any further. If not, come on in and Enjoy! I promise to entertain. Just remember,
It’s what DjTj Says…
I want to share with you a story that was told in church this morning. The story is very short and simple yet very powerful.
It is the story of a young homeless girl and a wealthy man.
One day this very wealthy man was driving down the street. He pulled up to a stop light and noticed a very young homeless girl begging for food, money, or whatever she could get. The light turned green and he drove away. Later on that day as he entered the gated community where he lived he saw the young homeless girl once again.
This time he cried out to the Lord “Lord why do you allow such things to happen to people. Why don’t you do anything to fix this? Unexpectedly the Lord called back to him and responded “I have done something about it. I created you!”
God’s response to this wealthy man was so powerful that it even hit me the moment I heard it. How many times have we been in a position to help and have done otherwise. God works through all of us. We complain that he allows misfortune to happen to us, but forget the vast fortunes he has allowed for others. It is up to those people to share God’s blessings. That is the point. If you are blessed you are supposed to share your blessings. Think about it, If the wealthy man were to share his blessing with the young homeless girl she would then be able to share her blessing with someone else and so on and so forth. God has done his part. It is up to us to do what he has called us to do.
Share your blessing,
If you haven’t already I suggest you view the 3 part TwinsInc Round Table discussion. The following is my personal summary of the discussion and how my thoughts and feelings were affected.
I decided to discuss this topic because I’m currently in a situation where this is a major issue. Now before I continue, I know many eyes will see this and to you all this is as transparent as I can be. These are my deepest personal thoughts and I hope no one takes them to personally. That being said, I think I once met the exact copy of myself, but in the body of a female. I swear this gals swag mirrored my own. It was almost like I was talking to myself.
Some of y’all prob like isn’t that kind of weird? Not really tho. I found it very refreshing and a constant challenge. Just my antics that I’d pull and her responses… I’m like dang I’m not prepared to deal with how I would react to myself. Then to have the same type of antics thrown back to me. Are you ever really prepared to defend against your own antics. Granted they are yours and you should know them like a book, but I guess the awe of it takes you by surprise.
Now from jump I knew that she had kids. Strangely enough I was cool with it. As if I overlooked the entire thing with the I’ll cross that bridge when I get there attitude. It has always been a rule of mine to not date anyone with kids. However, the older I get the more I notice more and more of my rules have changed and are changing. Many of them were not even my rules to begin with. Most of them are the rules that parents instill into their kids. As you become your own person you find yourself re write many rules and keeping the ones you agree with. The foundation will never change; that’s engrained, but you’re free to set your own ground rules.
So what happened?
Strangely enough my twin soul was not able to accept that we were to be. This caused a bit of a strain and eventually an abrupt halt. Suddenly I was crushed. Many feelings that I had been numb to immediately resurfaced as if a tank of water had just burst open. Now those rules that I were overlooking suddenly reappeared. I was leading with my heart at first, but now my brain wanted in.
Eventually the hurdle we faced was crossed and the tides settled, but my brain decided to remain in control as if changing jurisdiction in the matter of dating. Let me tell ya, when it comes to dating my brain doesn’t play! It instantly knows a match and a mismatch. It works on a pass or fail basis leaving no room for gray area. Kids? Let’s just say my heart hadn’t convinced my brain to change that rule.
At this point I think my brain is really trying to protect my heart from being hurt again and will do whatever it takes to prevent it. Even if it means staying in a comfort zone. Actually I think a comfort zone is what it seeks because it already knows what to expect. Is this fair? I can honestly say whatever choice I make (heart or brain) once the decision is made you’re gonna get 100 percent of me. So even if it is just a matter of remain in a comfort zone it’s a conscious choice.
That’s not me though. That’s not DjTj. I’m a rebel, i’m the daredevil, I’m the shoot now ask questions later type.. To remain in a comfort zone is not in character. Not that it’s bad, but it has the potential to become boring which leads to more issues. I guess the final question is…. Do I follow my head or my heart? Can I get my brain to trust what’s in my heart? Could my heart be under a spell? Maybe it’s a facade….
Guess we shall see,
But the question still remains… Dating someone with kids, Yay or Nay?
This is a video as part of my vLog DjTjsays. This episode I discuss Aids as a punishment from God rather that a virus that we have yet to find a cure for. Listen to my thoughts and leave your own.
I have spoken. Lol,
Here’s a photo a good friend of mine took on her way to work. Looks like your typical homeless person right? Well this guy has something besides food or booze on his mind. The sign he’s holding reads: “Dirty, broke & ugly need $ for Online Dating”
Now as bad as this might sound, I’d actually help him out. I mean how much more honest can you get. Does he scream originality or what? Not wasting time or sign space begging for food or work. He just wants a date. Don’t know how much luck he’ll have landing that date though… On second thought, he might need computer access first.
What should we put on his dating profile?
Ok here we go, (Note: This blog is uncut, unedited. So you will see my entire thought process play out until I reach my final conclusion. No revisions except for spelling and grammar. ) Welcome to the first edition of…
I’ll start by saying your personal preferences are your choice and yours alone. I am not here to judge anyone. However, I do have one little I guess pet peeve so to speak when it comes to gay/lesbians and its mostly with the girls that I see this.
So the point of being gay is to have two people of the same sex. Guy and Guy. Girl and Girl. 2 men or 2 women. Right? Then tell me why I often see lesbian couples in which you have the “girl” and the “guy/girl” or the girl that looks like a guy. If you’re a lesbian you like girls. If there’s a need for masculinity then you obviously like men too. So should I think of these couples as bi-sexual individuals? Folks, you’re confusing me!
This sissy stuff needs to stop! That to me kills the entire definition of gay. Maybe I’m linking Masculinity/Femininity and Sex to tightly together. Because if I think gay, then I think a guy that is attracted to Men. This also to me constitutes attraction to masculinity NOT femininity. Right?? If you’re attracted to femininity then you like females.
Someone explain this to me…
Ok I’ll take another wack at it..
So a Lesbian female is attracted to females therefore she possess masculine traits. Ok this can explain the want to look male. So what’s the excuse for the girly lesbian?
Same thing with the guys, Gay man likes men and possess feminine traits so this can explain acting like a girl, but…… well ok maybe the guys get it because you often see both men acting feminine.
Yea um ladies I think it would make more sense if both parties looked like men. The girl/guy girl look is killing me. One of yall lying!
Well again this by far is not an attack on the Gay/Lesbian Community. I’m just trying to understand. Often times topics are so sensitive that people are afraid to talk about them, but without gaining understanding of each other how can we get alone. This goes for anything, Race, Creed, Religion, Sex.
Join me in the discussion. Comments are welcomed, please be respectful as all comments are subject to approval.
That’s a Wrap
Remember the year 1999 and the whole Y2K craze? Well fast-forward to the present. Well we’re not quite flying around in our cars, but there have been some significant advances. Now fast forward to 2021! Hmm…..Is this what popped into your head too? Okay maybe its a bit drastic, but I think the design of many cities could see a major facelift by 2021. Everything is getting smaller and faster. We already have the “Go Pass” which allows you to make purchases in an instant. Imagine what we will be using by 2021.
You thought TempurPedic was revolutionary well get a load of this…
It’s the Sleep Pod! It’s sleek, it’s stylish, it’s comfy, it’s too small…. LOL. Ok, this is probably good for naps or maybe a form of therapy. Don’t think a couple would be too comfy in there, unless perhaps there was a giant version of this. Then Yes this is the bed of the future!
Now I surely cannot forget about my future 2021 vehicle.
Oh yea! Imagine riding around in this baby. Notice I didn’t say driving. It’s 2021 folks, Driving is for LOSERS! Nowadays you get in the car, tell it where to go and sit back and watch a Sanford and Son re-run or something (hopefully those still come on then, lol)
Well these are a few of my thoughts? What’s your life like in 2021?
You think the Black Eyed Peas will still be hot?! LOL They’ll be rockin 90′s gear.
So here’s a story…
I’m at your friendly neighborhood restaurant. I’ll be professional and not name the specific IHOP that it was, but anywho…
It’s pretty late to say the least and myself and a couple of friends stopped in for some breakfast. First of all, I guess we were invisible because I’m convinced that no one knew we were sitting there in plain sight. Finally I flagged someone over and expressed our wish to place an order. While the drink orders were being taken one of my friends requests a glass of water.
Now in my 27 years of restaurant experience I’ve known it to be standard practice to provide water upon request. Just wanted to say that,
So the waitress then says “oh I’m sorry we don’t serve water here I’d have to charge you for a bottle water.” Wait what? Did my ears hear her correctly? Had it not been that I had already ordered my food for pick up and decided to dine in instead, I would have left before she could say the word bottle!
The reason I’m sharing that story is because nowadays it seems like protesting is frowned upon. No longer do we stand up for ourselves and be individuals. It’s all about fitting in and following trends. Think about it. Social Media, what’s trending today? hey follow me… you know what I’m talking about ———————————–>
Sadly, I think the majority of the people in the restaurant probably had an issue with the bottle water situation, but just choose to accept it. Personally I feel had it been a restaurant in another neighborhood the same situation would not have occured and if it did the issue would have been raised immediately.
What happened to us? It’s like after the Civil Rights movement everybody went on break. Maybe we’re scared we might get shot? IDK. Break time is over people we can’t just let stuff especially this kind of stuff slide. I mean look at what’s going on in London these days!
To answer the question, Yes I have. What about you? Have you ever participated in a protest? If not, Would you?
That’s a wrap
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I’ve decided I want to blog more. Rather than just thinking about doing it, I’m starting right now. I will be posting on this blog at least once a day for the rest of 2011.
I know it won’t be easy, but it might be fun, inspiring, awesome and wonderful. Therefore I’m promising to make use of The DailyPost, and the community of other bloggers with similiar goals, to help me along the way, including asking for help when I need it and encouraging others when I can.
If you already read my blog, I hope you’ll encourage me with comments and likes, and good will along the way.
Talton aka DjTj
Some of you may not know this, but I’ve been somewhat of a blog writer for years now. Anywho, from time to time I like to revisit some of the things I wrote in the past. I was actually discussing this particular topic with a friend of mine recently and I thought I’d pull it out of the archives and share it. Just two things, I wrote this a while ago and 2… Don’t judge me for watching the Tyra show! Lol!
I’ve written blogs in the past about gender and sexuality which mainly focused on the issue of homosexuality. Well earlier I was watching the Tyra show (don’t judge me, lol) and she discussed something I’ve never heard about before. Intersex
Apparently the fact that you’re either male or female isn’t totally true. In fact, 1 in 2000 people are born somewhere in between. Confused yet?
Ok, let me break this down. First we need to understand the birth process. In a nutshell, every human that was ever born started off as a female. At some point in the birth process the babies that are going to be male are converted due to testosterone levels being increased. So basically we’re the same in a way. It’s just the hormones that makes us different.
Here’s the kicker, Now lets take a scale (as they did on the show) of 0-10. 0 being totally female, and 10 being totally male. There are many people that the process begins for them to be male, but it doesn’t finish. So they start to head toward ten, but they might only make it to 3 or 4. This is where the problem lies. These people are not fully female or male. Technically they’re a little of both. Now let’s talk about where the confusion kicks in,
At birth the doctor notices that the baby is intersex. He tells the parents that they should choose a gender for the child and have the baby surgically altered to fit that gender; never to tell the child of this happening. The parents have no clue as to what this means and follows the doctors “official” advise. So let’s say this particular baby was really a 6 or 7, but the parents already have 3 boys and have been trying for that girl so they choose female. Now you have an unnecessary surgery being performed to an infant who genetically is more male than female, but has been deemed a female. 13 years later puberty begins to set in and now you have a “female” wondering why her voice is deepening or why she has to constanly wax her face or why she’s so tom boyish. She infact is not a she at all. Sure z (i’ll explain z in a sec) probably has some female characteristics, but remember z on that scale is about a 6 0r 7 steps towards male.
Ok, you’re prob like what is Z. Well according to one of the intersex people from the show, Z would be the correct pronoun to refer to an intersexed individual. So in addition to he, she, it, there should be Z. For possession, like his and her, it’s zir. Got that, Z and Zir.
To be clear, Intersex people are NOT the same as transgendered people. People that are transgender are actually people that were totally female (0) or male (10) that chose to become the opposite sex. This could also stem from an hormonal imbalance, but these people had no issues as far as actual gender at birth.
You may have been thinking, Isn’t this called a Hermaphrodite? Well yes and no. The term Hermaphrodite is really old and from the greek age where people actually have both sex organs. Not all Intersex people have both organs. Intersex is the newer term.
Why am I talking about this? Well that’s for my next blog. I know this one is getting pretty long and if I continue it’ll turn into a book rather than a blog. So I’ll end here and continue in my next blog. One of the bigger issues that may be related to intersex is the debate on Homosexuality being a choice or not. Intersexuality would make it more evident that its not a choice.
So on that note I’ll just say that I found that episode of Tyra very interesting and I really applaud her on the success she is having. You would think that her show would just be about modeling or fashion, but she really does touch on some hard hitting topics, many that are very helpful to the lives of young teenage girls. Why not guys? It wouldn’t help, We don’t watch that stuff, lol
To all those people out there who are Intersex and don’t really have a gender to identify with, remember….
Just do you, “
That was the name of the blog, Just do you. Catchy huh?
Well what do you think? Go ahead and comment! Don’t be shy…
That’s a wrap